Bringing up a child and his many years with us

أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم

Assalamoalaekum السلام عليكم

I am sharing an ayah today that inspired me today. If it is of any benefit then all praise to Allah. All the shortcoming are due to me. Oh Allah help us remember Your favors on us and help us expect reward only from You. Ameen.

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Surah Ash-Shuara, Verse 18:
قَالَ أَلَمْ نُرَبِّكَ فِينَا وَلِيدًا وَلَبِثْتَ فِينَا مِنْ عُمُرِكَ سِنِينَ

(Firon) said: Did we not bring you up as a child among us, and you tarried among us for (many) years of your life?

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Did we not bring you up as child? Sound familiar?  That was Pharoa's question to Musa عليه السلام

I wonder why did he say so? He was a king. He must have many servants who must have taken care of Musa عليه السلام

Or may be it is her wife who must have taken care of Musa عليه السلام or may be it was mother of Musa عليه السلام who must have brought him up while he was a child to save him from every evil that must have been present there in presence of Pharoah. SubhanAllah.

But both of the mothers  didn't say "didn't I bring you up as a child". Why? Because they expected thier reward from Allah. Allah o Akbar. May Allah help us become mothers like those. Ameen.

I seek refuge that I ever utter this statement "didn't I bring you up as I child and you tarried among me for many years of your life".

I wonder why could a king say that "didn't I bring you up as a child? May be out of arrogance, or self sufficiency or may be out of self reliance, or may be due to ungratefulness (He should have been grateful to see a baby growing up) or may be out of resentment, or because of his Qadr or due to lack of tawakkul trust, or may be because he adopted him.

Whatever it was, it was wrong to say statement like that.

I need to remind myself to seek refuge to have such mentality. It is natural to expect from  somebody, you suffer sleepless nights, pains, fatigue and they remain with you for many years and you take care of them for many years.

But I need to remind myself that it's Allah blessings to have them whether it's your own or adopted. Ask somebody who doesn't have a child. It's a blessing to see their first steps, their first smiles, giggles, babbles, to listen to their first words, to see their first mischief, their first day of school, college, their marriage, to see their first baby.  No other joy can be compared with these. Also I need to remind myself that if I have the opportunity to bring them up, it is a gift from Allah that I can serve His creation. And I need to make my intentions pure that if I am bringing them, that is for Allah, not for the expectation that they serve me back or say whatever I want them to think or say.

I need to remind myself that having resentment when they leave your ways was a style of Pharoah. May Allah save us all from the footsteps of Pharoah.  Ameen.