Quran verse about getting married
أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم
Assalamoalaekum السلام عليكم
I am sharing an ayah below and my reflection on it. If it is of any benefit then all praise to Allah. All the shortcoming are due to me. Oh Allah guide us, forgive us and have mercy on us. Ameen.
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Surah An-Noor, Verse 32:
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ
And marry those among you who are single and those who are fit among your male slaves and your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing.
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It is one of the most difficult situations for parents to decide when to get their kids married and who to marry. Same is the situation for those who are guardians of singles. And then there are those singles who are adults like divorced, widowed or never married.
This ayah is telling to get those married who are single irrespective of the gender, wealth, age, education. One of the greatest fear for a parent/guardoan to get her daughter married is that if the guy is financially stable. But this ayah reminds us that if the one who is marrying is needy, then Allah will make them free of want.
In this new generation of our kids, more and more kids are choosing to remain single. Why?
Some fear responsibilities, some require financial stability, some want equal education. In short criteria of a prospective spouse is getting complex with time.
There are some who say marriage is required for those who cannot save themselves from illegal relations. But I don't find any such requirement in this ayah.
According to my understanding, marriage is recommended for every single. But our cultural traditions don't let old, divorced and widowed singles to get married.
And then there are those single males who are not financially stable and have a hard time to get married.
I wanted to know what did Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم said on imortance of marriage or on getting married and I found following hadith.
Hadith 1 on marriage : Abdallah ibn Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) as saying, "Young men, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality but those who cannot, should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing desire." (Bukhari and Muslim)
Hadith 2 on marriage: Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) as saying, "When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half." (Bayhaqi)
Hadith 3 on marriage: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1084
Hadith 4 on marriage: Narrated Sahl bin Sa'd: A woman presented herself to Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) (for marriage). A man said to him, "O Allah's Apostle! (if you are not in need of her) marry her to me." The Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said (to him), "What have you got?" The man said, "I have nothing". The Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said (to him), "Go and search (for something) even if it were an iron ring." The man went and returned saying, "No, I have not found anything, not even an iron ring, but this is my waist sheet and half of it is for her". He had no Rida (upper garment). The Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said, "What will she do with your waist sheet? If you wear it, she will have nothing over her and if she wears it, you will have nothing over you." So the man sat down and when he had sat a long time, he got up (to leave). When the Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) saw him (leaving), he called him back, or the man was called (to him) and he said to the man, "How much of the Qur'an do you know (by heart)?" "I know such and such suras (by heart)", said the man naming the suras. The Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said, "I have married her to you for what you know of the Qur'an". (Bukhari)
I wondered what should actually be the criteria of choosing a spouse? And I found following hadith
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1084).
Abu Hurayra (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) as saying, "A woman may be married for four reasons; for her property, her rank, her beauty and her religion, so get the one who is religious and prosper." (Bukhari and Muslim)
Abdullah ibn 'Amr ibn al-'Aas (may Allah be pleased with him) relates that the Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be up upon him) said: "The whole world is a place of useful things and the best thing of this world is a virtuous woman (wife)." (Muslim)
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8:454 Narrated by Sahl bin Sad As Said, “A man passed by Allah’s Apostle and the prophet asked a man sitting beside him “What is you opinion about this (passer-by)?” he replied, “This (passer-by) is from the noble class of people. By Allah, if he should ask for a lady’s hand in marriage, he ought to be given her in marriage, and if he in intercedes for somebody, his intercession will be accepted. Allah’s Apostle kept quiet, and then another man passed by and Allah’s Apostle asked the same man (his companion) again, “What is your opinion about this second one (passer-by)?” He said, “O Allah’s Apostle! This person is one of the poor Muslims. If he should ask a lady’s hand in marriage, no one will accept him, and if he intercedes for somebody, no one will accept his intercession, and if he talks, no one will listen to his talk.” Then Allah’s Apostle said, “This (poor man) is better than such a large number of the first type (i.e. rich men) as to fill the earth.”
Consider the case of Abu Juham bin Hudhaifah and Mu’awiyah ibn Abu Sufyan. Both of them proposed marriage to Fatimah bint Ghaity. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم advised Fatimah not to marry either of them on the grounds that Mu’awiyah was then a pauper and Abu Juham was cruel and harsh. So she married Usamah.
Assalamoalaekum السلام عليكم
I am sharing an ayah below and my reflection on it. If it is of any benefit then all praise to Allah. All the shortcoming are due to me. Oh Allah guide us, forgive us and have mercy on us. Ameen.
____________
Surah An-Noor, Verse 32:
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ
And marry those among you who are single and those who are fit among your male slaves and your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing.
____________
It is one of the most difficult situations for parents to decide when to get their kids married and who to marry. Same is the situation for those who are guardians of singles. And then there are those singles who are adults like divorced, widowed or never married.
This ayah is telling to get those married who are single irrespective of the gender, wealth, age, education. One of the greatest fear for a parent/guardoan to get her daughter married is that if the guy is financially stable. But this ayah reminds us that if the one who is marrying is needy, then Allah will make them free of want.
In this new generation of our kids, more and more kids are choosing to remain single. Why?
Some fear responsibilities, some require financial stability, some want equal education. In short criteria of a prospective spouse is getting complex with time.
There are some who say marriage is required for those who cannot save themselves from illegal relations. But I don't find any such requirement in this ayah.
According to my understanding, marriage is recommended for every single. But our cultural traditions don't let old, divorced and widowed singles to get married.
And then there are those single males who are not financially stable and have a hard time to get married.
I wanted to know what did Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم said on imortance of marriage or on getting married and I found following hadith.
Hadith 1 on marriage : Abdallah ibn Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) as saying, "Young men, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality but those who cannot, should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing desire." (Bukhari and Muslim)
Hadith 2 on marriage: Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) as saying, "When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half." (Bayhaqi)
Hadith 3 on marriage: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1084
Hadith 4 on marriage: Narrated Sahl bin Sa'd: A woman presented herself to Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) (for marriage). A man said to him, "O Allah's Apostle! (if you are not in need of her) marry her to me." The Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said (to him), "What have you got?" The man said, "I have nothing". The Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said (to him), "Go and search (for something) even if it were an iron ring." The man went and returned saying, "No, I have not found anything, not even an iron ring, but this is my waist sheet and half of it is for her". He had no Rida (upper garment). The Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said, "What will she do with your waist sheet? If you wear it, she will have nothing over her and if she wears it, you will have nothing over you." So the man sat down and when he had sat a long time, he got up (to leave). When the Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) saw him (leaving), he called him back, or the man was called (to him) and he said to the man, "How much of the Qur'an do you know (by heart)?" "I know such and such suras (by heart)", said the man naming the suras. The Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said, "I have married her to you for what you know of the Qur'an". (Bukhari)
I wondered what should actually be the criteria of choosing a spouse? And I found following hadith
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1084).
Abu Hurayra (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) as saying, "A woman may be married for four reasons; for her property, her rank, her beauty and her religion, so get the one who is religious and prosper." (Bukhari and Muslim)
Abdullah ibn 'Amr ibn al-'Aas (may Allah be pleased with him) relates that the Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be up upon him) said: "The whole world is a place of useful things and the best thing of this world is a virtuous woman (wife)." (Muslim)
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8:454 Narrated by Sahl bin Sad As Said, “A man passed by Allah’s Apostle and the prophet asked a man sitting beside him “What is you opinion about this (passer-by)?” he replied, “This (passer-by) is from the noble class of people. By Allah, if he should ask for a lady’s hand in marriage, he ought to be given her in marriage, and if he in intercedes for somebody, his intercession will be accepted. Allah’s Apostle kept quiet, and then another man passed by and Allah’s Apostle asked the same man (his companion) again, “What is your opinion about this second one (passer-by)?” He said, “O Allah’s Apostle! This person is one of the poor Muslims. If he should ask a lady’s hand in marriage, no one will accept him, and if he intercedes for somebody, no one will accept his intercession, and if he talks, no one will listen to his talk.” Then Allah’s Apostle said, “This (poor man) is better than such a large number of the first type (i.e. rich men) as to fill the earth.”
Consider the case of Abu Juham bin Hudhaifah and Mu’awiyah ibn Abu Sufyan. Both of them proposed marriage to Fatimah bint Ghaity. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم advised Fatimah not to marry either of them on the grounds that Mu’awiyah was then a pauper and Abu Juham was cruel and harsh. So she married Usamah.
O our Lord! grant us in our wives and our offspring the joy/coolness of our eyes, and make us guides to those who
guard against evil
Al-Quran 25:74
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